When it comes to who begins the divorce process more often, the statistics are clear -- women overwhelmingly are the party that is more likely to pull the plug on a marriage. A survey of more than 2,000 heterosexual couples found that women initiated nearly 70 percent of divorces.
Why Women Initiate Divorce More Often
Psychologists say that this figure mirrors what they see in their own practices. Typically, it is the woman who complains of dissatisfaction with their marriage. The man is more likely to express that he is troubled by his wife’s negative feelings about the relationship. However, the man also often says that he is fine with the state of the marriage and that he would prefer to ride out any trouble spots in the relationship.
In addition, married women report lower levels of “relationship quality.” This may have something to do with the fact that women are expected to take the man’s last name and are often responsible for the bulk of the housework and childcare.
Does it Matter Who Files for Divorce?
Legally speaking, it does not matter which spouse files for divorce. A court will not give either party preference for filing first. Moreover, filing for divorce first does not mean the other party is “at fault” or has done anything wrong. Filing for divorce is simply a procedural step. In fact, in the vast majority of Illinois divorce cases, fault is never assigned to either spouse.
More consequential is whether the divorce is contested or uncontested. A divorce case is usually made of up smaller actions that must be determined: the marriage must be dissolved, the marital property must be divided, eligibility for spousal support must be determined, and, if there are children, parental responsibility, parenting time, and child support must be set.
When there is a disagreement as to any of these issues, a divorce will be contested. This means that there will need to be negotiations between the spouses as they work to resolve these issues, and hearings in court may be necessary, with a judge making the final decision on certain matters. Contested divorces can take months or years to fully resolve.
Contact a West Dundee Divorce Attorney
The Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II P.C. represents men and women at all points during the divorce process. Whether you or your spouse files for divorce, we will be your advocate in the courtroom as well as at the negotiating table. Our firm prides itself on its client-centered approach. That means that we listen to the tone you wish to set for your divorce and proceed with it in mind. Our firm’s skilled Algonquin divorce lawyers can be reached at 847-428-7725. Call us today to set up a free, no-obligation consultation.