When going through a divorce, it might be hard to think about moving on. However, it is possible to find love again and even remarry. In some cases, one or both spouses may choose to give marriage another try with new partners. Many remarriages involve couples who have children from previous marriages, often referred to as “blended families.” Statistics show that approximately half of all families in the United States are blended rather than the “traditional” nuclear families. Creating a new family dynamic can be challenging for parents and kids, and there are many issues to consider. For example, one spouse may be paying spousal maintenance or child support to his or her ex-spouse. Parenting time also may need to be adjusted based on new home or work schedules. Following are ways to ease the transition of combining families after remarriage.
Practical Advice for Joining Families
If you decide to get married again after taking a second chance on love, you might not necessarily think about how a remarriage could impact your children. After enduring years of unhappiness in your first marriage, it may be tempting to put your feelings ahead of your kids. However, it is important to remember that it is not all about you and your new love.
Here are some tips for learning how to share your lives and create lasting bonds:
- Focus on the kids: Put your attention on your children and your new spouse’s children. Think of ways to help the kids get to know each other. They may not be instant friends, so be patient and let them develop their relationships over time.
- Do not try to compete: It is never a good idea to try to “one-up” your ex-spouse by buying your kids expensive gifts or purchasing a house that is out of your budget. In addition, comparing yourself to your ex’s new partner is not healthy.
- Be reliable and consistent: Make sure you stick to your parenting time schedule. This builds trust between you and your ex-partner, as well as with your kids. Modeling appropriate behavior for your children and step-children may help them accept your new relationship. They in turn will respect you and the effort you are making in bringing the families together.
Every couple’s situation is unique, as each spouse brings something different to the new marriage. Depending on the circumstances, a prenuptial agreement could help protect your assets and rights to property. It can also address child-related issues such as a college education, plus the costs of medical/dental care, and extracurricular activities.
Contact a Kane County Divorce Lawyer
A second marriage can mean a fresh start for parents and any children they may have from prior marriages. However, the transition can be complicated, emotionally, financially, and logistically. At the Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II P.C., we understand how difficult it can be for some family members to adjust after divorce and remarriage. Our dedicated Geneva parenting time attorneys will help you resolve all the marital and child-related issues you need to address. To schedule your free consultation, call us today at 630-200-4882.