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Three Tips for Co-Parenting Successfully After an Illinois Divorce

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st. charles divorce lawyerAfter months of negotiation and deliberation, the divorce is finally over. You no longer live with your spouse and life begins to feel normal again. If you share children, however, your spouse is still in your life - and is likely to be for many years to come. 

Co-parenting after a divorce can be stressful, but there are strategies parents can use to make the process much easier for everyone. After all, minimizing conflict benefits parents and children and will help parents prioritize the children’s best interests over their personal disagreements. Here are some of the things parents can do to make working together easier following a divorce. 

Keep Past Arguments in the Past

It can be tempting to stray back into old patterns, even after partners are no longer together. However, making accusations that one partner is never on time or fails to appreciate the other partner will not help transition children smoothly from house to house. Stay focused on whatever needs to be done to address the needs of the children, and stay away from personal issues. 

Do Not Criticize Your Ex

Criticizing a former spouse’s parenting tactics is not going to change the way they parent, and will likely only contribute to a hostile relationship. It is especially important not to badmouth an ex in front of your children - even if you strongly disagree with their parenting strategies. Children easily adapt to different parenting strategies and should be kept out of parental disagreements as much as possible. If a parent is truly concerned that their ex’s parenting style poses a threat to the children, this should be handled by the police or in court. 

Use a Separate Email Address

Using a separate email address allows parents to slow down, think carefully, and only put into writing what they would be comfortable having other people read. Although sometimes phone conversations are necessary, discussing arrangements for the children when there is a likelihood of disagreement is best done in writing and from a distance. A separate email address also encourages parents to separate the children’s issues from the rest of their lives and easily keep track of communication related to the children. 

Work with an Algonquin Divorce Attorney

The hard work of a divorced parent does not end just because the divorce is finally over; successfully co-parenting after a divorce takes commitment and cooperation. An experienced Kane County divorce attorney with Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II P.C. can help you protect your interests and understand the long-term implications of a co-parenting strategy, both during and after a divorce. We pride ourselves on achieving successful mediation between many divorcing couples and can help you find a low-conflict path forward. Contact our offices today to schedule your initial consultation and find out what we can do for you. Call us at 847-428-7725

 

Source:

https://psychcentral.com/pro/exhausted-woman/2018/07/10-essentials-of-co-parenting-after-a-divorce#1 




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