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Reducing Conflict in Your Illinois Divorce

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St. Charles Divorce Lawyers

Getting divorced is, almost by definition, a contentious process. Spouses have different perspectives, different priorities, and different optimal outcomes, and they are no longer working cooperatively as a couple to resolve these issues. Certain problems, like infidelity or secretly spending money, can heighten the emotional intensity of divorce proceedings and make it very difficult to avoid conflict. 

However, there are proven strategies for reducing hostility during a divorce. Attempting to calm things down and work peaceably together is good for everyone, especially if there are children involved. An experienced Illinois divorce attorney with training in conflict resolution can help everyone pursue their goals while minimizing anger and friction. 

Start Your Divorce on the Right Foot

In marriages where spouses have grown apart and no longer see each other as viable life partners, the way they begin their divorce can have a major impact on how smoothly the rest of the process goes. Avoid surprising your spouse and be willing to listen to their reaction. Making accusations or putting the blame on each other will make things more difficult; instead, focus on moving things forward peaceably and stressing your commitment to cooperating together. 

Build a Team of People You Can Trust

Mediation is one common conflict resolution strategy, but collaborative divorce is another great way to pursue an agreement. Couples who can reach mutually acceptable terms on issues like parenting time and asset division can file for an uncontested divorce, which is faster, easier, and less expensive. Couples who create their own divorce agreements are also more likely to be satisfied with the arrangement and adhere to it. 

It is essential to have people on your team who are committed to helping you cooperate with your spouse. Everybody will have opinions about how you should conduct your divorce proceedings, and it is important to surround yourself with people who support your strategy. A great divorce attorney, as well as divorce coaches, specialists in child psychology, and financial advisors can all be great assets as you move through your divorce. 

Continue to Cooperate After Divorce

Although divorced couples no longer live together, they often have to continue working together for many years as their children grow up. Abiding by the terms of the divorce decree and treating your ex with politeness and respect will make your life easier during the years following the divorce and may also make it easier to modify the divorce decree when appropriate. Although remaining peaceful with your former spouse may be difficult, nobody ever regrets behaving well. 

Talk to a St. Charles, IL Divorce Lawyer

Divorce is never easy, but there are strategies spouses can use to reduce conflict. At Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II P.C., we have experience helping couples in even the most difficult divorces resolve issues in a productive and peaceful way. Put your trust in the experience and skill of a Kane County divorce attorney with many years of practicing mediation and other conflict resolution techniques. Call our offices today to schedule a confidential consultation at 847-428-7725





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