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Is There Such a Thing as a Stress-Free Divorce?

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When it becomes clear to a couple that their marriage has failed, perhaps after many years of stress and unhappiness, it is understandable that they would want to avoid further stress during the divorce process. As such, many couples choose to pursue an amicable divorce, rather than one involving a contested trial. In truth, even amicable divorces can rarely be described as “stress-free,” given the potential for conflict and the many life changes that will ensue, but it is possible to keep stress at a manageable level with the right approach.

Reducing Stress During the Divorce Process

By following these suggestions, you may be able to achieve a divorce that is as stress-free as possible:

  • Come prepared - Often, stress goes hand in hand with uncertainty. If you do not know what you want or what to expect from the divorce process, you may become overwhelmed. Preparing thoroughly for any negotiations with your spouse, including by identifying your priorities and gathering all important documents, can help you to handle them with confidence.

  • Commit to cooperation - An amicable divorce is only possible if you and your spouse are both committed to working together on a resolution that protects both of your interests. You will need to collaborate and compromise with your spouse on decisions regarding important issues such as the allocation of parental responsibilities and the division of marital property. Any agreements you can reach without the court’s intervention can save you from the stress of a trial.

  • Monitor your stress levels - Make a point to check in on your feelings throughout the divorce process. An honest assessment of your stress levels can help you recognize when you need help, and psychologists have even developed a scale to help you measure your divorce stress. When you find that your stress is increasing, take time to engage in stress relief activities like exercise, meditation, and relaxation, or to meet with a therapist who can assist with stress management strategies.

  • Enlist professional assistance - Many couples are under the assumption that involving lawyers and other professionals will only contribute to higher stress levels, but often, the opposite is true. When both spouses have qualified legal representation, they have the peace of mind that comes with an understanding of the divorce process and protection from making mistakes. A divorce mediator can also help to minimize stress during negotiations between spouses by serving as a neutral third party.

Contact a St. Charles Divorce Lawyer

At the Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II PC, we understand the importance of a low-stress divorce, and we can help you make it happen. We offer skilled legal representation or mediation services depending on your unique situation and needs. To schedule a free consultation, contact our knowledgeable Kane County family law attorney today at 847-428-7725.







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