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Is It Possible to Protect Kids During Divorce? Experts Say Yes - Here’s How 

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st. charles divorce lawyerDivorce is never easy, but it can be especially difficult for young children. However, difficult does not necessarily mean catastrophic - especially when parents are committed to protecting their children from the harmful fallout of divorce. If you are a parent considering divorce, know that children are more resilient than we give them credit for. With the appropriate precautions, children can bounce back from the challenges of divorce and go on to be happy, healthy, and successful. 

Five Tips for Protecting Children During an Illinois Divorce

Divorce is one of the most studied, talked about, and written about topics in human psychology. Its effects on children are well-documented, and everybody knows a horror story or two about a family who never recovered after divorce. However, child psychological experts believe that committed parents can protect their kids. Here’s how: 

  1. Pay attention to the details - Children often show subtle signs of distress after learning about their parents’ divorce. Parents can expect children to behave in unpredictable ways during the divorce and for a long time after hearing the news of the split. But by spending quality time with children and staying attuned to their emotional needs, parents can mitigate problems before they worsen. 

  2. Encourage your child’s relationship with their other parent - Extensive research suggests that, even after divorce, children are much more likely to succeed when both parents are actively involved in their lives. When a parent discourages their child from having a healthy relationship with his or her other parent, problems are bound to follow. 

  3. Keep children out of adult conflicts - Children cannot understand adult problems, nor should they be asked to. A child should never be a listening ear for parents who need to vent, and they should not be asked to relay messages from one parent to the other. Parents should communicate maturely with each other so that children are not left to parse hidden meanings from adult conversations. 

  4. Keep a routine - Although children may be moving between households, the more predictable their schedule is, the happier the children will be. Structure and regularity can help children feel a sense of normalcy, and parents will also benefit by knowing what to expect. 

  5. Take time for yourself - It can be tempting to throw yourself into parenting after a divorce without taking a moment to think about yourself. But no matter how cliche it may sound, a rested, fulfilled parent is a better parent. Use your child’s time with your ex to rejuvenate yourself and do things you like to do but cannot do with a child at home. 

Meet with a Kane County Divorce Lawyer

Parents have their child’s best interests at heart, but sometimes it can still be difficult to know how to handle getting divorced when children are involved. At the Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II P.C., our experienced and compassionate Algonquin, IL divorce attorneys know how difficult divorce can be and we are committed to handling the complex legal aspects of divorce so you can focus on your family. Schedule an initial consultation today by calling our offices at 847-428-7725





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