How to Avoid a High-Conflict Divorce

Some people have the perception their divorce is going to be ugly, meaning there will be constant fights in the courtroom and extremely negative feelings between then and their ex-spouse. Divorce does not have to be constant warfare. Yes, emotions run high, and disagreements occur, but avoiding a contentious court battle can shield children from the unpleasantness and save time and money. Working together can also create a foundation for successful co-parenting.

Keeping these tips in mind can keep your divorce civil:

Reflect on the Past

If your parents were divorced or you have been divorced previously, there is a good chance you have an idea of what not to do in a divorce. Bad memories and experiences with prior divorces, even if they are a friend’s or another family member’s, can provide a blueprint. This can help you prevent the same mistakes from happening in your divorce. Children remember bad divorces, but they also remember when parents are cooperative and help each other. 

Judgment Leads Nowhere

You may have some criticisms of your spouse you feel are very reasonable, but those criticisms will not lead anywhere positive if they are at the front of your mind during the divorce process. You may not like your ex much right now, but hostility leads to bad decisions and ineffective negotiations in divorce. The sooner you can let go of your animosities, the more likely you will have a healthy relationship after your divorce, which is especially important if you have children. 

Be Courteous

Cooperating with your ex may not be something you want to do, but it is necessary, especially with children. Working with them to create a happy and stable life for your children will at times require setting negative feelings aside. 

Contact a West Dundee Divorce Attorney

Negative, spiteful divorces often take longer to complete and recover from. Divorce is not always going to be easy, but our experienced St. Charles family lawyers will make the process as smooth as possible for you. The attorneys at the Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II PC know what it takes to get the divorce agreement that is best for your family. Call us for a free initial consultation at 847-428-7725.

Source:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/splitopia/201511/4-steps-prevent-bad-divorce