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How Should I Mentally Prepare for Mediation in My Illinois Divorce?

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Kane County family law attorneysDivorce does not have to be the difficult process that you once thought it would be. You and your spouse can avoid costly battles in court and come to an amicable settlement through mediation. Negotiating with your soon-to-be ex-spouse can be challenging, especially if child-related issues are involved. It is important to arrive at your mediation meetings with the right frame of mind. Even with an experienced mediator, it is your responsibility to listen deeply, communicate your needs, and find a compromise. If you are feeling nervous at all, remember that the benefits of mediation go far beyond cost savings, and you have a better chance of maintaining a peaceful relationship with your ex-spouse once the divorce is final. A qualified divorce attorney can help you achieve this goal.

Listen Attentively and Be Courteous

Mediation is about compromise, so that means more than just stating your terms and hoping your spouse will agree to them. Depending on the circumstances, your spouse may attempt to push you to bend to his or her terms. You might also find yourself judging your spouse or focusing on your assumptions, but you will never be able to develop a solution that works for both of you if you do not stay present and respectful. Hopefully, your attentiveness will foster a comparable frame of mind in your spouse and that the mediation will go move forward smoothly.

Do Not Dwell on the Past; Build a Positive Future

Divorce and the painful experiences that lead to it are uncomfortable, but if you are trapped in those emotions, you might run into many pitfalls during your mediation. If this is the case, you will have a difficult time building a future that you can enjoy. Imagine the future that is best for you, your spouse, and your children, and cooperate with your spouse to determine the changes that will lead to that positive outcome.

Contact a St. Charles Divorce Attorney

Your mental preparation is an essential component of a successful mediation, but so is having a well-trained and experienced Kane County mediation lawyer to help facilitate the process and keep the discussion flowing between you and your spouse. If you are not sure how to begin the mediation process or whether it is best for your situation, the Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II PC can help. Attorney Schwarz is not just an accomplished mediator but a leader in the field. He has written on the topic and presented mediation training and seminars to share his insight with other lawyers. Call our office today at 847-428-7725 to schedule your free consultation.

 

Sources:

http://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/ilcs5.asp?ActID=2086&ChapterID=59

http://www.splitopia.com/main/4-key-skills-for-collaborative-divorce-success

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