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Helping Your Children Feel at Home After Your Illinois Divorce

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St. Charles IL family law attorneyAs a parent, negotiating for a parenting time schedule that allows you as much quality time with your children as possible is a crucial part of the divorce process. Perhaps equally important, however, is ensuring that when your children do stay with you after the divorce, they feel comfortable and welcome in your home. Transitioning from one household to two is often a difficult adjustment for children, and your efforts to make your house feel more like home can go a long way toward making the change less stressful.

Creating a Comforting Home For Your Children

While it is sometimes possible for one parent to stay in the family home after a divorce, in many cases, both parents will need to find a new home. Here are some things to keep in mind that can help you make an unfamiliar location homier for your kids:

  • Give your children a dedicated space. Giving your child their own room, especially one that they can personalize to their liking, can help them feel like your new house is truly their home. If a separate room for each child is not possible given your living arrangement and financial resources, work with your kids to set aside smaller spaces where they can take comfort.

  • Help your kids keep track of items to bring between homes. Bringing certain things between homes can help to create continuity for your kids during the transition. For example, younger children may have toys and other comfort objects that they want to bring with them. For older children, important items can include clothes, mobile devices, school books, and materials and equipment for extracurricular activities.

  • Establish rules and routines with your co-parent. As much as possible, you and your former spouse should work to ensure that expectations and routines for your children are similar in both of your homes. This can help you avoid a situation in which one house feels like home while the other feels like a break from the norm.

  • Keep things consistent outside of the home. While the place you live may be different, there are many things that you can keep the same after your divorce. For example, you can still drop your kids off at school, or attend or be involved with their sporting events, performances, and other activities.

  • Be careful about cohabiting partners. At some point after your divorce, you may be ready to remarry or move in with a new partner. It is a good idea to ease your kids into this change by introducing them to your partner and any potential step-siblings and letting them get to know each other well before you all start sharing the same home.

Contact a St. Charles Family Law Attorney

At the Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II PC, we know how important it is to get the details right when it comes to parenting after your divorce. We can help you address many of these details in your parenting plan and resolve any disputes with your co-parent that you may encounter. For a initial consultation, contact our Kane County parenting time lawyers today at 847-428-7725.




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