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Do I Have to Meet My Spouse Face-to-Face for Divorce Mediation?

Posted on in Divorce

St. Charles family law attorneyMany divorcing couples consider the option of mediation to help them resolve the issues at hand. Mediation can be beneficial for many reasons, including its general affordability, efficiency, and privacy in comparison to a divorce trial. However, if you are feeling frustrated or hurt by your spouse, the thought of meeting with them for mediation may be unpleasant. It is important to understand how the mediation process works so that you can decide whether it is something you are comfortable with.

The Traditional Mediation Process in Illinois

Traditionally, divorce mediation involves scheduled sessions during which the spouses will meet at a neutral site, with a neutral mediator guiding negotiations to help them find common ground and reach an agreement. This means that for at least part of the process, you will likely be speaking with your spouse face-to-face. However, you may ask to speak with the mediator privately if you have something to say that you would prefer your spouse not to hear. You can also request to have your own attorney present for mediation so that you have someone who can help you protect your interests. Even if you and your spouse are prone to conflict on your own, the structure of mediation may be able to help you civilly resolve your differences.

The Virtual Mediation Alternative

With recent improvements in communication technology, and especially in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic, virtual mediation has become a more popular alternative to the traditional face-to-face process. During virtual divorce mediation, you, your spouse, and the mediator will likely be speaking directly to each other at the same time, but you will not have to be in the same location. This can not only create an additional buffer between you and your spouse, it can also fit more conveniently into your schedule and allow you to be in a place of comfort while it happens.

Mediation Is Not For Everyone

If you are concerned about even seeing your spouse’s face during the divorce process, then you should consider other options for resolving your divorce. You may find that destructive conflict is inevitable any time you have to meet with your spouse, no matter how structured the environment, or seeing your spouse may trigger fear because of a history of domestic abuse. In these cases, attempting mediation can cause much more harm than good, and you will likely need an attorney with litigation experience to advocate on your behalf in court.

Contact a Kane County Divorce Mediation Lawyer

The attorneys at the Law Office of Vogel and Mourelatos, LLC are trained to provide divorce mediation services, and when we do so, we strive to create an environment in which both spouses are comfortable. However, we can also represent you in court if litigation is the best way to protect your interests and achieve a fair outcome. Contact our St. Charles divorce attorneys today at 847-428-7725 for an initial consultation to help you decide how to proceed.




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