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How to Keep Things Normal for Your Children During Divorce

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During the divorce process, “normal” is a relative term. Of course, you, your spouse, and your children are going through a monumental life change, and many of the things you have grown accustomed to will never be the same. That said, it is still important that you try to keep things as normal as possible for your children to help them cope with the things that are changing and assure them that they still have a stable support system.

Maintaining Consistency Throughout the Divorce Process

As your family goes through the upheaval of a divorce, here are some suggestions for promoting a degree of stability and normalcy for your children:

  • Stick to your regular routine. During your divorce, settlement conferences, meetings with your attorney, and court appearances may bring about changes to your schedule, but whenever possible, you should try to continue going about life as usual. This includes making sure that your kids are able to attend their regular school and extracurricular activities, as well as things like sitting down to dinner as a family each night.

  • Start working toward a co-parenting plan. It is common for one parent to move out of the family home during the divorce process, and this limbo period before an official parenting plan is established can be a difficult and confusing time for everyone. However, if you and your spouse are able to cooperate, you may be able to use this time to begin to iron out an agreement on parenting time and the allocation of parental responsibilities and establish a schedule that allows both of you to continue seeing your children on a regular basis. If you are looking for a more legally binding solution, you can pursue a temporary parenting time order through the court.

  • Keep divorce drama outside of the home. Getting a divorce is stressful, and you may be experiencing anger, sadness, and other strong emotions. In some cases, you may be going through an intense conflict with your spouse whenever you attempt to reach a resolution through negotiation or litigation. It may be unrealistic or even undesirable to shield your children from your feelings entirely, but try not to let your emotions overtake your every interaction, and especially be sure that direct conflict with your spouse occurs away from your children.

  • Make time to talk to your children. As a parent, it is important for you to be available to your children as they go through major life experiences, both good and bad, and a divorce is no exception. Your children will surely have questions about what is happening and how their lives will change, and during this difficult time what they often need most is someone to talk to. Making time for your kids and listening to their concerns demonstrates that while many things may be changing, your love and support for them remains a constant.

Contact a Kane County Divorce Attorney

Divorce has both personal and legal implications for you and your children, and in order to ensure that your divorce resolution protects your children’s best interests and allows you to continue being the best parent possible, you should work with a compassionate St. Charles divorce lawyer at the experienced Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II PC. We strive to be available when you need us, and we can start helping with an initial consultation as soon as you contact us at 847-428-7725.






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