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4 Behaviors That Can Lead to Divorce

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West Dundee divorce attorneyA marriage is a partnership and a pact between two people to share in each other’s lives and feelings. It is normal for married couples to have disagreements with each other, but there are a few behaviors which make it much more likely that a marriage will end in divorce. Exhibiting all of these behaviors is not necessarily a bad thing, as long as they do not happen with such great frequency that they are overruling the positive elements of a marriage. 

What Are the Behaviors?

The four behaviors are as follows:

  • Contempt - In this context, contempt means that one partner thinks that they are smarter or better than the other person. When a person feels contempt towards their partner, they are typically not being receptive to how the other person is feeling, which leads to the other person feeling like they are not heard or are being put down. 
  • Criticism - Criticism is similar to contempt in that it can make little things turn into big arguments. Constantly criticizing the way your partner does something or the way they dress or look and not addressing issues in a constructive way can lead to increased feelings of resentment. 
  • Defensiveness - This behavior is characterized by one spouse constantly stating that it was not their fault if something goes wrong or acting as if they are a victim. In many cases, it is better for spouses to take all the details of a situation into account and think about what they could have done better. 
  • Stonewalling - If an argument is about to happen, and one partner abruptly decides that they are not going to talk about the issue, this can lead to further issues down the road. Not being able to discuss problems and air grievances with each other may lead to couples staying mad at each other longer than they would have if each person had explained their reasoning. 

The repeated and constant occurrence of one or a combination of these problems can lead to an increased likelihood for a couple to divorce. Overall, a constant theme throughout these behaviors is a lack of proper communication and empathy. Making sure to explain problems in a thoughtful way and talking through each person’s viewpoint can help relieve many problems in a marriage. 

Contact a Seasoned Kane County Divorce Lawyer

While identifying these behaviors can help couples address their marital issues, there are times when a relationship is beyond repair. If you feel that divorce is the best option for you, you need a skilled Geneva divorce attorney who understands how to fight for your rights and interests during the divorce process. Contact the Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II PC today at 847-428-7725 to schedule an initial consultation. 



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