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3 Tips for How to Tell Children About Divorce

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West Dundee Divorce Lawyer

Most parents understandably worry about their children’s reaction to learning about their impending divorce. Divorce means unavoidable upheaval in the lives of everyone involved. Telling your children about your divorce is not something that should be done haphazardly. You should carefully plan and discuss how the conversation will happen with your spouse. If you follow a few simple tips, it can make the process easier on you and them. 

Do Not Play the Blame Game

If your divorce is especially contentious, it may be tempting to speak poorly of your soon-to-be ex-spouse and blame the dissolution of the marriage entirely on them. The children do not need to hear that, no matter how much you believe it to be true. Presenting a united front will help the children adjust more quickly to divorce. They can see both their parents being mature and handling the separation as well as possible. It also lessens the likelihood of them feeling they are the reason for the divorce or that they must side with one parent or the other. 

Let the Children Work Through Their Feelings

Children react to divorce news in different ways, depending on the situation and their emotions. Some will be thankful, others will be shocked, others will be angry. Overall, the important thing is to let them feel what they are going to naturally feel, and do not assume what their reaction will be. Telling them how to feel will not have a positive effect overall. 

Tell All Children at Once

Some parents tell the oldest child about the divorce first as a way to slowly break the news and soften the blow to younger siblings. However, this is not beneficial to any child because it makes one keep the secret for at least the time being and the others might find out and feel hurt because they were not told. It is best to tell all the children at the same time so you can answer all of their questions at the same time. 

Contact an Algonquin Family Law Attorney

The attorneys at The Law Office of Vogel and Mourelatos, LLC are experienced in resolving divorce cases as fast as possible and giving you the settlement you desire. Our skilled Kane County divorce lawyers will be there for you every step of the way throughout the divorce process. For a initial consultation, call us today at 847-428-7725.



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