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3 Signs That You Might Be in a Psychologically Abusive Marriage

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According to the Domestic Violence Intervention Hotline, domestic violence, which is also called intimate partner violence (IPV), domestic abuse, or relationship abuse, is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship. Unfortunately, domestic violence is something that affects many married couples worldwide. Although many often correlate domestic violence with physical violence (hitting, punching, slapping, and more), it can take many other forms, such as psychological and emotional abuse. Both forms of abuse can impact the overall well-being of a partner, which can lead a spouse to file for divorce.  

Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse

Some partners might not even recognize that domestic abuse is occurring because there are no physical injuries present to make it apparent. However, the mental and emotional abuse can take a detrimental toll on the body, and feelings worthlessness and hopelessness can quickly arise. Repeated emotional blows, berating, humiliating, and controlling behavior are just a few examples of this abuse in play, as shown below: 

  1. Gaslighting: A common tool used by an abuser to maintain control is often convincing a partner that he or she is crazy, or making him or her second guess reality. This form of abuse is done slowly so that the victim does not realize how much he or she has been brainwashed. An example of this includes when your partner lies to you with a straight face and makes you start to question the validity of his or her intentions. 

  2. Humiliation: This form of abuse may be done in public where your partner makes you feel stupid or ashamed, especially when making a mistake in public. This type of humiliation is often used as a form of punishment. 

  3. Isolation/Control: A common form of abuse, your partner wants to know exactly where you are at any given time. He or she may not allow you to leave the house, go to certain places, or see certain people without him or her there. Your spouse may also make you put location services on your cell phone, so he or she can track your exact location at all times. 

Contact a Kane County Family Law Attorney

Above are just some of the many ways in which psychological and emotional abuse ensues. We know that this repeated abuse is a way for spouses to maintain power. At the Law Offices of Benedict Schwarz, II P.C, we have a team of dedicated domestic violence lawyers who will fight on your behalf to help you regain your confidence to file for divorce. If you are ready to take legal action, call our qualified and compasstionate Elgin order of protection lawyers today at 630-200-4882 for your initial consultation. 






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